☝️ Upwarding #5: Narwhals, Forgive Yourself, Don’t Invest In Your Friends Deal, A Personal Growth Hack, and Destroying Your Reputation

Welcome to this week's Upwarding newsletter. Issue #5


I love following great photography on Instagram. National Geographic in particular does an amazing job sourcing pictures. Keeping in the winter theme, here’s a picture of Narwhals. Those horns…those are actually teeth.

Speaking of Narwhals, if you have a child around seven-ish, check out this awesome book series. Yes, that’s an AVERAGE rating of 5 stars.


We tend to hold our past mistakes against ourselves. Yes, it’s important to forgive others, but we also have to learn to forgive ourselves. Here’s a brilliant talk on the topic by Venerable Thubten Chodron… she’s the real deal, currently authoring a book with the Dalai Lama. Not to name drop or anything! Plus, she has a very sweet and calming voice.


Men from Ikaria, Greece live a really long time. And most of them nap every day. Turns out that naps are correlated with a long life. 60 minutes is the recommended time. Although culturally difficult to accept in hard-driving North America, if you can find a way to do it, by all means do so and DON’T feel guilty about it.

I love napping and am trying to reduce my guilt around it.


A lot of people get pitched private real estate deals. I’ve invested in a few myself, and learned a few lessons along the way. Summary: most people shouldn’t invest in private deals, especially with awesome alternatives like Fundrise.

Random Thought

Egos are huge and powerful things. And they really get in the way of our learning. It’s not just an affliction that strikes kids – being able to admit our mistakes and learn from the is the key to being a successful and growing human. Here’s how we deal with this in our household.

The Growth Mindset is such a powerful idea that about 10,000,000 have listened to Carol Dweck’s Ted Talk on the topic.


“Forget safety.
Live where you fear to live.
Destroy your reputation.
Be notorious.”
― Rumi

This outrageous quote was especially helpful years ago when I realized how much fear was controlling my life. Change your relationship to fear and you will change forever. Rumi, that crazy one, drives this to the extreme here. Destroy your reputation! What self-definition are you holding onto that is holding you back?

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